You
will not pull a mother figure or an amazing first cousin or a roomful
of lifelong girlfriends out of thin air. Most people don’t have these
things, actually. We have to fucking make it work instead.
The
more you try — without skyrocketing expectations, without circular
thoughts that say YOU ARE A FRIENDLESS FREAK — the easier it’ll be. The
more you do it, the happier you’ll be, even if no lifelong friends
emerge immediately. You should do it now in order to prepare you for
doing it 20 years from now, because you’ll ALWAYS have to do it. You
don’t just get the big group of buddies and then sleepwalk through the
rest of your life. Life isn’t like that.
