look at this hymen diagram i just pulled off wikipedia

yes, people with hymens like the top row and maybe even the bottom left should be able to go slow and use lube and avoid tearing successfully! hooray how lovely!!

on the other hand, don’t tell me you’re gonna have penetrative sex with a hymen like the bottom center or center left and not experience tearing ever- you can decide what you want to do about this if this is you.

so plz don’t tell me it’s necessarily abusive and exploitative if there’s tearing during first penetration

on the other hand, don’t tell me tearing is a normal and expected part of every first time and that penetrative sex always has to be painful for people with vaginas

bodies are diverse, bodies are different, know your body and know yourself

thank