the people who made the 5 love languages test made another about your apology language
Mine is MAKE RESTITUTION which is so dramatic but it’s more accurate that mine is all of them combined with this gesture being the most important
Mine is make restitution and honestly yeah you have to pay when you make mistakes whether that be with contrition swallowing pride or money and eventually changed Behavior which ties into accepting responsibility which was number 2
This test made me so hypothetically angry at all these people for hurting me! Especially thinking about them hypothetically asking for forgiveness right away like who does that…
The making restitution one was pretty low on my list because 1) I felt like I would still be mad at them in the moment and not trust them to follow through on their promises 2) I hate when people ask how they can make it up to you because it feels like they’re putting pressure on you to think of a way to repair the relationship that THEY threatened with their actions WHILE you’re still upset and hurt 3) when their offered solution is like lets do something together NO I’m still mad at you I don’t want to hang out!!