i really suggest every trans person who deals with suicide ideation to check out this hashtag, #RealLiveTransAdults. the “it gets better!” coming from the privileged folks who have no idea what you’re going through (or don’t care) always feels like bullshit. this feels real.
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There’s an interesting phenomenon that I’ve witnessed over the past few years. The names of trans women of color will be in the mouths of the queer community after they’ve been murdered, but support for us while we are still alive is sporadic at best. Trans women are pushed out of queer spaces by cis people, dfab genderqueers, and trans men, just to name a few. Women’s spaces are frequently hostile to us because we aren’t “real women” but trans men almost always get a free pass. And I’ve seen more than one cis queer say that trans women are “appropriating” the gay rights movement, totally ignorant of the fact that we started the damn thing. I have seen more than one cis queer say that we have nothing in common with them, that our issues are completely unrelated. We have a hard time finding dates, finding support, finding community. And when we dare to call people out for their transmisogyny, we are labeled crazy, hysterical, divisive. I have been called Austin “queer scene’s” number one enemy. All for daring to share my thoughts on the world around me.
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Trans Day of Remembrance is filled to the brim with the names of murdered Black and brown trans women, but is a single evening of remembering enough? And what does it mean that TDoR doesn’t explicitly talk about race and is often dominated by white people? Here in Austin there’s this tradition of calling the names of the dead and then having an audience member sit in a chair that represents where the dead trans woman would sit. The seats are always filled with white people and non-trans women. What do our deaths mean when we our bodies, our lives, the physical space we take up, is appropriated by white folks? How can I mourn for my sisters when the space set up for that mourning is so thoroughly colonized? And how can I even see hope of living a full life when I don’t see myself reflected in what is supposed to be my community?
Don’t get me wrong, it’s important to honor those women who came before us, those women murdered by colonial patriarchy. But it seems like more often than not, the queer community at large is content with just remembering. We only hear about trans women after their deaths. And even our deaths are not our own. A week doesn’t go by without a white queer citing the deaths of trans women of color as the evidence of how oppressed they are. These stats are often used in service of their own assimilation; meanwhile, they’re happy to leave us out in the cold. We don’t even have dignity in death, nor the ability to decide what it will mean for us.
Support for trans women dwindles when we are still alive. Nowhere is this clearer than in fundraisers run by and for trans women. There have been some success stories, but they always seem to be few and far between. More often than not, a trans woman’s fundraiser will get a few signal boosts, maybe a couple of dollars and then languish. Meanwhile, trans men’s fundraisers for transition related care often get fully funded. This funding disparity is also clear institutionally, where organizations that focus on the concerns and issues of trans women of color get a miniscule amount of all the money from LGBTQ foundations. This is especially true in the South, where LGBT organizations only get 3-4% of domestic LGBT funding. Again, cis, white, rich institutions are quick to use our murders in their statistics then turn around and spend their money on organizations that look like them: cis, white, and rich. Organizations that push for assimilation.
Obviously financial support isn’t the be all end all action to support trans women of color, but it certainly doesn’t hurt. And the fact that it’s a struggle for trans women to acquire financial assistance is symptomatic of our society’s priorities. It points to who is valuable and who is disposable. At the bottom of this article is a list of fundraisers and organizations for trans women that I would strongly encourage you to support. If you’re not a trans woman and you’re reading this, think long and hard about the ways that you’re supporting trans women in your community. Do you see trans women in public community spaces? How are your actions pushing them out? Don’t think that just giving money nullifies your collusion in transmisogyny. Financial support is important but it is not the only step. As we honor the memory of those girls who have been murdered, ask how you’re helping the living.
Fundraisers to Cover Living Expenses
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Backing Biko
Support Cherno Biko in advocating for folks like us!Love Aaryn
Help Aaryn reach her dreams!Support CeCe
Support CeCe’s work!Lift Up Lourdes
Support a trans leader!Save Fake Cis Girl from Financial Apocalypse
Help a trans woman of color keep her lights on!Support Monica Roberts
Help Monica stave off homelessness!Operation Zipzap
Help a trans woman go to electrolysis school!Support Michelle
Help Michelle get money to go to school!Miss Major Monthly Giving Circle
Help support a TWOC elder and living legend!Fundraisers to Cover Transition Related Care
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TRANLATIN@ needs HELP for Surgery
Help a Pervuian trans women get access to gender affirming surgery!Support Vanessa on her medical need
Help Vanessa get chest reconstruction surgery!Proud Trans Latina seeking help with GRS
Help Naiymah get access to gender affirming surgery!Sophia’s Breast Fund
Help Sophia access breast augmentation surgery!Help a Homegirl out!
Help a trans latina get access to transition related care.Ida’s Surgery Fund
Help writer and activist Ida access surgery!Fundraisers for Organizations that Serve Trans Women
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Support the TWOC Collective
The TWOC Collective in NYC needs your support!Alexis Documentary
Help a documentary about a trans woman activist get off the ground!MagniFLY!
Donate to support TWOC filmmakers!Trans Tech
Support an organization giving trans women the tools to support themselves!Quirell
Help a social network by and for marginalized folks get started!El/La Para Trans Latinas
Help fund an organization working to advocate for trans latinas!Trans Latina Coalition
Support an organization doing national movement work!Support Casa Ruby
Help a community center stay afloat!If you are aware of any other similar fundraisers, please share them in the comments.
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why send dick pics when you could send chick pics
So hiring a white person with a criminal record is more desirable than hiring a Black person without one? Never would’ve guessed…
this is what we mean when we say ALL white people have white privilege. whether you’re rich, poor, a criminal, uneducated or anything else. a white criminal has a better chance at getting a call back then a black person with no criminal record. shut the fuck up next time you wanna talk to us about privilege.
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A national ban on conversion therapy
Reduced medical cost (honestly
Should be free but that wouldn’t happen) for trans people to transitionBuild more shelters for lgbt kids that get kicked out
Like all of these things and so much more is what should be focused on but instead marriage is the magic finishing line apparently
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It’s Different for Girls with ADHD
When you live in total squalor—cookies in your pants drawer, pants in your cookies drawer, and nickels, dresses, old New Yorkers, and apple seeds in your bed—it’s hard to know where to look when you lose your keys….
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Putting this out here:
1-877-565-8860
The Trans Lifeline, a crisis hotline created specifically for transgender people run by transgender volunteers.
http://www.transhousingnetwork.com
The Trans Housing Network is a nationwide organization that allows inquiries for trans-inclusive housing, and for people to post that they have a safe space for transgender individuals.
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hey maybe in 2015 I’ll finally figure out my sexuality orientation and gender *live crowd laughs uproariously*
There’s like… A depressing comparative lack of nicki rapping on pink print :/
TUESDAY AGAIN NO PROBLEM
this is the final tuesday of 2014. thank you for all the services you’ve done this year, Tuesday Dog
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