Black trans women are the pillars and pioneers of the trans community and also the members of the community who face the worst discrimination and I think it’s really important that we remember and acknowledge that
They’ve done so much for the community as a whole and it’s so important that we support them back because they face a trifecta of transphobia, misogyny and antiblackness and they deserve so much better
ok so… i identify as agender but im usually hesitant to outright say it because im always afraid that ppl will get on my case 4 being Fake Nonbinary™ since the default is like , white + short haired + more masculine presenting and i know its silly because theres no 1 way to express your gender but its still something thats always made me shy away from labeling myself as trans
its TDOV though so im going to try and be more confident in my gender! cuz short-haired punk white kids arent the only ones who can be nonbinary!
and @ all my fellow trans poc out there who feel insecure about their gender like i do—your identity is valid, regardless of what society assumes and how you choose to present yourself!!!
im trans and disabled. the thing is, part of my disorder is poor wound healing. you know what that means? no surgery. ever. unless i am about to die, and even then it’s a serious risk. i had tonsillectomy over half a decade ago and my throat still opens and bleeds.
so what does this have to do with being trans? well i cant get top surgery. ever.
so when you reinforce the idea that passing = the ideal for trans people, that means that people like me, who cant have surgery for medical reasons, or who cant afford it, or even just dont want it, are told they cant ever be their true selves.
when i found out i couldnt get surgery, a thought that had been keeping me alive for years, i nearly ended my life that night, because society, indeed even others in the trans community, had taught me that passing was all that mattered. a thousand little things said in good intention “you’ll make such a great guy” “she passes so well, wow!” “i never knew ___ was trans, he looks cis!” and they nearly killed me.
stop equating passing with being ones true authentic self. stop saying “you pass so well” as an immediate compliment. stop hurting the trans community, even unintentionally.
passing ≠ the universal trans ideal
for those who asked, yes this is okay to reblog. pls do tbh. raise awareness.
Ok so now I’m on the look out for lesbians with hair bows in the back
This ^^^
I just like how the bow on the left is a ‘signal and a chllange’ it’s like yeah, Betty’s been going steady with Tommy for a few weeks now, but let’s see if Ronny can step up his game before Betty becomes a right bow kind of girl
can i use ‘she wears her bow in the back’ as a euphemism now?
My name is Ashley, I identify as a woman of transgender experience, and I love cardigans.It is so hard to put into words what this day means to me. One year ago I was very deep in my denial of my transgender identity. So deep, in fact, that I wouldn’t post anything related to the trans community on my blog. Yes…I had to work through some of my own internalized transphobia to get where I am today, to fully realize my own identity, to post this picture and happily, oh so happily - identify myself as a trans woman. This tumblr community, my amazing followers, trans friends - you have all held me up, from the day that an anon sent me an ask saying, “I didn’t know you were trans. You’re safe here,” to a few days ago when I announced that I would be starting hormones very, very soon (yes, it is still happening and the countdown is still on)! Through it all, you all have made me feel so loved, and just…so…beautiful. My path has not been straight. It has not been easy. But being able to fully realize who I am has brought me happiness and a peace beyond anything I’ve known before. I know now: There is no greater way to love yourself than to be yourself. Unapologetically.
There have been (and will continue to be, I am sure), people who will try to dim the light of this day. People who will try to invalidate our identities, our expressions, our humanity, the very fabric of who we are - but I truly believe that we cannot be completely silenced. I see the absolute strength of this community. I see that every single time we are brought down, we rise stronger. Every. Single. Time. And I just want to say that I am so damn proud of all of you. My trans friends who are out, my trans friends who can’t be out for any reason at all, my trans friends who are still discovering their identity, my disabled trans friends, my trans friends of every beautiful shape and size, my trans friends on every point of the sexual spectrum, my trans friends who have supportive families, my trans friends who are struggling to find support, my trans friends who feel fully comfortable in their expression, my trans friends who are still in that process - I am so damn proud of all of you.
Just in existing, in being who you are, you shine a light so bright it could never go out.
Today, and every day: Shine brightly, friends. Shine brightly.
Went to see Laverne Cox in this dress last night. When I came to the stage at the end to thank her and ask her a question, she took one look at me, snapped her finger, and said “Work!” Easily the most validating moment of my transition to date! What an angel…
My name is Leylâ, I am a twenty-year-old trans girl, and I’m starting HRT in 29 days!
