on the stone butch blues post you mention it was important to “lesbians and transmascs” i am uncomfortable with that wording, since it seems to imply butch trans women couldnt have found value on feinberg’s work since they didnt have the Pussy Having Dysphoria Experience. it probably wasn't your intention, but when you group "lesbians" and "transmascs" vaguely, it can lead to implying "only TME ppl relate to this, never TMA ppl"
I’m so sorry that I made you feel excluded, but you’re right; that totally wasn’t my intention. If you’re a trans lesbian, you’re still a lesbian, you know? Like, you’re included when I say “lesbians”. I didn’t occur to me to distinguish between trans butch lesbians and cis butch lesbians in the same sense that I wouldn’t be, like, “This is important to tall butch lesbians and short butch lesbians."
I grouped lesbians and transmascs because Feinberg identified as both butch and trans, and a major theme of the book is the occasional blurring of those lines and the difficulty navigating between whether you’re a GNC woman or a man – a theme that OF COURSE resonates with trans butch lesbians.
I understand that for transfeminine people and trans lesbians in particular, it isn’t always safe to assume you’re included. You have no idea what kind of person I am, whether or not I try to curate safe and inclusive spaces, etc.
I’ll work harder in the future to explicitly include trans women when I talk about things that involve women as a whole, so that there’s no guesswork as to what side I’m on and everybody feels safer and more understood.
Thank you for being gentle and understanding even though you were hurt, and thank you for taking the time to explain your perspective to me. I know how emotionally exhausting that can be.
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being a sexually inexperienced adult isn’t something to be ashamed of. however, the brazen way virgins comment on sex on this website is objectively funny.
I didn’t know you had to have sexual experience to understand arousal and basic mechanics. As a cishet woman, I understood tab A into slot B long before I lost my virginity. (Hehe I made a rhyme.)
But seriously, someone’s virginity in no way disqualifies them from commenting.
Though, as more of a writing critique than virginity critique, I do find it funny when I’m reading smut and completely lose track of someone’s arm or like, when did they flip over?
this website is so incredible. you can describe a person and they’ll just materialize in the notes
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